unloading shame

Unloading Your Shame

Shame is the painful feeling from something dishonorable improper done by oneself or by another. Shame produces a feeling of “I am bad”. When we believe we are a bad person, we internalize negative messages. This can lead to feelings of overwhelm which keep us from problem solving daily issues. Therefore, we remain stuck in…

angry addict

Managing the Angry Addict

Angry people use anger to cope with feeling inadequate or threatened.  An angry addict typically abuses substances to cope with these feelings.  Not knowing which came first, the anger or the drugs, the root for both is painful feelings of shame.  The fear of rejection or abandonment may cause angry outbursts toward loved ones.  The…

forgiving the offender

Forgiving the Offender

We have all been offended sometime in our lives by a family member, a co-worker, a friend, or a complete stranger.   Offenses can negatively affect us physically, emotionally, and spiritually.  The offense can even rob us of our joy in life.  Unforgiving may cause a continuous cycle of relapse and continued drug and alcohol abuse. …